I should probably put a disclaimer here; I may not be a complete beginner at getting what I want. I am an only child, after all. This is, however, the first year of my life that I feel even remotely qualified to be giving advice on achieving things in a professional capacity. I accomplished a lot in 2016 that I’m quite proud of. So please, read on for some random, completely unsolicited advice on getting what you want, as told by someone who just recently got good at it.
Moving: hard? Yes. Fun? Also yes. If there’s one thing I’m good at, It’s moving (not at moving heavy objects, though, I’m very weak). I’ve moved across the country twice and across the continent once. Up until 2014 I prided myself on being able to fit everything I owned into my Hyundai Santa Fe, including a seventy pound German Shepherd. I’ve been meaning to look into my ancestry for nomadic bloodlines, but I digress. Don’t be afraid to move. Everyone needs to experience life in a brand new place at least once. Maybe you’ll hate that brand new place and move back, but the experience will give you a new perspective. Moving eight million times has given me great peace of mind in knowing that Las Vegas is where I’m supposed to be. Moral of the story: Don’t get stuck. If you don’t like where you’re at, move. Find your happy place.
Stress isn’t fun, but it seems to be highly correlated with success. For the first half of 2016, I found myself taking a full college course load while planning a cross country move, searching for apartments, searching for internships, making sure I was on track to graduate after said internship, oh and PLANNING A WEDDING. I worked myself into a stress frenzy after applying to each internship, imagining how each one could take my life and career down a completely different path (and developed a deep, deep hatred of cover letters). Cut to summer 2016, while I worked an 8-4 internship, served on nights and weekends (Shout-out LVCVA and Pub 365!), applied for jobs, all while still planning that darn wedding! Cut to 2017, I am happily married and graduated, working a job I love in a city that I love. These days the stress I experience is of the healthy variety induced by responsibilities in work and life. Moral of the Story: Overwhelming stress means you’re on the way to getting where you want to go. Embrace it, knowing that it means success is on the horizon.
(Is she cheering because she got just married, or because she’s done wedding planning? It’s hard to say.)
Did I think I was going to get married at 23 years old? Absolutely not. I watched way too much “Sex and the City” growing up to even fathom that finding a healthy, happy relationship could be accomplished at a young age. No sir, my twenties were surely going to be filled with a series of complicated relationships, and my apartment was definitley going to have a fire escape. I managed to wrap my head around settling down at a young age, but it was oddly hard for strangers and acquaintances to do the same. I heard opinions from plenty of people that barely knew me that I was too young to get married. Try to tell me I’m not mature enough to own a house by 24, I dare ya. Moral of the story: Don’t listen to people who are only inserting their opinions because they want you to conform to the status quo. Go with your gut, even if it’s taking you down a slightly unconventional route (although it could be argued that marriage and home ownership are the most conventional routes one could possibly go down).
(My favorite family picture)
On Underestimating Females
DO NOT DO THIS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. Females are powerful and stubborn yet nurturing creatures. You want them on your side. I feel incredibly lucky to have ended up working in an industry dominated by females I admire, and I’m only here because the females in my life cared enough to help me get ahead. Moral of the Story: #GirlPower.
I wish I had more chapters to add to this Beginner’s Guide, but this is solely based on my experience from the past year or so. To recap: Move across the country or across the world for a fresh perspective; Embrace stress; do NOT let acquaintances or society dictate how and when you should commit to something; and don’t underestimate the power of the Sisterhood. I suppose it will be different for everyone, but keep these principles in mind, add your own, and you’ll be well on your way to living a lavish Mariah Carey-esque lifestyle that entails stairclimbing in stilettos and calling people “lambs” (if that’s what you’re into.)
~submitted by Kelsey Cooper